Posted: Sat Feb 1, 2020 10:02am
Hmmmm....OK. To be honest it does sound a bit like you have had a few nice holidays and fallen into the "it would be lovely to live like this every day" trap. Holidays and real life are two very different things.
However, first and foremost, decide where you want to be. You know Benalmadena I guess, but the coast is full of English speakers so don't define where you want to be on that basis alone. Generally speaking the further inland you go the less that English is spoken. I would say at this stage you need to pull back a little, come across for a month in a rented apartment, rent a car and get out and about every single day exploring until you stumble across your own slice of paradise. The Spanish coast is long and changes a lot. Personally I would say forget the notion of expat community, get out there and explore. If you need to be surrounded by flag waving Brits stay in the UK. You will end up with a far more interesting life by being culturally exposed to a wide variety of nationalities and languages. English is nearly always the common factor but you will need to at least try to speak some other languages, even if its a few words. That alone gets you much further. If you plan to work then you will need to at least have a basic working knowledge of Spanish to stand any real chance of employment so if you don't speak it now, even at a basic level, start learning. Today. It's important.
There's a mass of other stuff that you will need to consider, including healthcare, residency and what you need to get that, such as monthly bank balance requirements and that is a little changeable right now simply because of Brexit but it will be a factor that you can't ignore. You can't just poll up and stay. It really isn't like that.
But for now, book that month, rent that car and nail down where you want to be. West of Benalmadena is generally expensive, east of Malaga has a different feel again and generally speaking is less expensive. Explore it all. Do you want a village, a city, the hills, the sea?.....there are dozens and dozens of questions and choices to make.
I can understand the "just go" thought pattern and yes you need to be flexible, but don't go without a plan. Those that do very often end up back where they started as they get a very rude awakening. Living as a beach bum in Tarifa sounds idyllic. Maybe it is for a long weekend but that novelty will soon wear thin. Good luck however you decide to proceed.