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Posted: Sun Aug 30, 2020 12:02pm
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Saarah

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Hi my name is Saarah and I have finally taken the plunge to live in Spain, and start a new life, after a two year traumatic divorce! I am hoping it’s the right decision, but I’ll never know until I try right? I’m moving in Friday to the Duquesa area woth my 14 year old daughter. She will be starting at Sotogrande school this September. If anyone has any advice on meet ups or coffee days or any get togethers I would love to hear. Also anyone else in a similar situation that made the move alone, would also love to know your experiences, advice, loves, hates, happy, regrets? Would also be interested to know if there are any walking, or hiking groups in the area as I live to do this? Many thanks in advance xx 

Cazmac22

Posted: Mon Aug 31, 2020 9:34am

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Posted: Mon Aug 31, 2020 9:34am

I’m not in your area Saarah, but just wanted to wish you good luck with everything. I’m sure you’ve made the right decision 😀

Saarah

Posted: Mon Aug 31, 2020 12:05pm

Saarah

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Posted: Mon Aug 31, 2020 12:05pm

Cazmac22 wrote on Mon Aug 31, 2020 9:34am:

I’m not in your area Saarah, but just wanted to wish you good luck with everything. I’m sure you’ve made the right decision 😀

Thank you I appreciate you taking the time to message 

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Posted: Mon Aug 31, 2020 5:17pm

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Posted: Mon Aug 31, 2020 5:17pm

Saarah wrote on Mon Aug 31, 2020 12:05pm:

Thank you I appreciate you taking the time to message 

You’re very welcome 😀

Robert100

Posted: Wed Sep 2, 2020 11:42am

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Posted: Wed Sep 2, 2020 11:42am

Hi Sarah, Good for you ! Getting divorced is a very sorrowful thing to do, and can be very taxing as it obviously was for you. But you've managed and moved to a very nice place to live. I've lived here for over 25 years and never regretted it. I've now sold my business and started to enjoy my retirement. 

Theres plenty to do, clubs to join if that's what you want, and people are generally very friendly. Of course, the lovely climate helps ! My name is Bob and if you need any help dont hesitate to ask! I wish you well with your new life!

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Dianne 52

Posted: Wed Sep 2, 2020 12:02pm

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Posted: Wed Sep 2, 2020 12:02pm

Hi we are moving to Duquesa in Dec did you buy or rent we are  not sure what to do at our age (68) we stay in Duquesa every

 winter for 4 months love it there .

Dianne 52

Posted: Wed Sep 2, 2020 12:04pm

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Posted: Wed Sep 2, 2020 12:04pm

Robert100 wrote on Wed Sep 2, 2020 11:42am:

Hi Sarah, Good for you ! Getting divorced is a very sorrowful thing to do, and can be very taxing as it obviously was for you. But you've managed and moved to a very nice place to live. I've lived here for over 25 years and never regretted it. I've now sold my business and started to enjoy my ret...

...irement. 

Theres plenty to do, clubs to join if that's what you want, and people are generally very friendly. Of course, the lovely climate helps ! My name is Bob and if you need any help dont hesitate to ask! I wish you well with your new life!

Hi Bob did you buy or rent we are retired and not sure whether to buy no siblings lol 

KevinBD

Posted: Wed Sep 2, 2020 12:15pm

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Posted: Wed Sep 2, 2020 12:15pm

Hi Sarah,

I was in a similar situation in 2018. Very bitter and traumatic divorce. leaving me with the prospect of moving to a new country, not speaking the language and not knowing anybody. I came here and very quickly started going to the gym, the pool, biblioteca (library) and running around my village to just keep myself busy (I do get some odd looks from Spanish people the way I am dressed when running). I soon got to know some Spanish people by nodding and trying my broken Spanish with them. They are a very friendly bunch and will help you whenever they can. There are lots of ex-pats as well, mostly friendly as well, some I found a little intrusive, but that could just be me being a little private and not wishing to discuss my life and position. I do not do the bars every day and night, I still prefer the gym etc, but there are always people around to help and chat with. Life here is different to the UK, but I would never change my decision. I even do odd jobs for Spanish people now. Just fitted some new taps for an older lady in my street. Still not mastered the language though, just me being lazy.

Robert100

Posted: Wed Sep 2, 2020 12:39pm

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Posted: Wed Sep 2, 2020 12:39pm

Dianne 52 wrote on Wed Sep 2, 2020 12:04pm:

Hi Bob did you buy or rent we are retired and not sure whether to buy no siblings lol 

Hi Sarah  Obviously it's a personal thing.......whether to rent or buy ....... I would suggest that you might think of renting for 6 months to see if you like the idea of living here........it is different to the UK........if youd like to stay  then I think you should buy ......I bought when I moved here, but I was setting up a business, so I was definitely going to stay......I found my new bank very helpful. Now, after 25 years, I have no mortgage to find and I have an asset that I can use if I eventually want to move back to the UK.

I would never advocate renting for a long period unless you still have property back un the UK.......its wasted money and you never stop paying. Of course, you have to be careful when buying property. You need a good solicitor. I find that Manilva Solicitors in Sabinillas very good. Obviously, being here for a long time, I have good knowledge of the necessary paperwork you need to live here legally . Should you need further info  please dont hesitate to keep in touch. Spain can be a very beaurocratic country.  Bob

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